Comments on: The Connected Parent: Helping Children with Separation and Divorce http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/ The website for smart successful parents. Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:40:46 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Mathilde http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-122188 Mathilde Sat, 08 Nov 2008 11:41:38 +0000 http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/#comment-122188 Hello, it seems that the title ( and link ) of another article is missing between the 2 commas : " We offer another article, , that spells out ways that parents can help their children regain their confidence " I appreciate a lot this work and try to share it with a lot of younger parents. My daughter is almost 20 now and away as a student but she is very good at using the phone for discharge between visits (whatever it is : getting the flu, being mistreated in the street, having a friend who commited suicide, existential questions...) My niece who I listened ( during 10 mns ? )last summer astonished me. She is 9, it was just after her elder brother had teased her and she reacted strongly; I just said : Are there things which upset you ? She discharged very well, cried and accepted a hug. I was obvious that she loves her brother and even worries about him. Two days later when they leaved she told me "I am going to miss you" and It's only you...(a time of reflexion) who gave me back The Joy of living ("la joie de vivre" ) She has never heard a word of theory of (co-)counselling, just experienced it! What a reward. So you know you have "fans" in France too. The same with Playful Parenting (L. Cohen) Thanks to Aletha Solter. Mathilde Hello,

it seems that the title ( and link ) of another article is missing between the 2 commas : ” We offer another article, , that spells out ways that parents can help their children regain their confidence ”

I appreciate a lot this work and try to share it with a lot of younger parents.
My daughter is almost 20 now and away as a student but she is very good at using the phone for discharge between visits (whatever it is : getting the flu, being mistreated in the street, having a friend who commited suicide, existential questions…)
My niece who I listened ( during 10 mns ? )last summer astonished me. She is 9, it was just after her elder brother had teased her and she reacted strongly; I just said : Are there things which upset you ? She discharged very well, cried and accepted a hug. I was obvious that she loves her brother and even worries about him. Two days later when they leaved she told me “I am going to miss you” and It’s only you…(a time of reflexion) who gave me back The Joy of living (”la joie de vivre” ) She has never heard a word of theory of (co-)counselling, just experienced it! What a reward.
So you know you have “fans” in France too. The same with Playful Parenting (L. Cohen)
Thanks to Aletha Solter.

Mathilde

]]> By: Heather Drescher http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-115272 Heather Drescher Wed, 01 Oct 2008 15:59:54 +0000 http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/#comment-115272 Hello... Regarding your article about helping kids through divorce, I have a tool that I’m sure you’ll be interested in adding to your arsenal for children and their parents to use to help them through the divorce process! I’ve recently illustrated the award-winning children’s book “You and Me Make Three” which is sold in conjunction with B.B. the Bear (manufactured by Build-A-Bear Workshop). On each page is a Parent Tip from the court mandated SMILE Program co-authored by Richard S. Victor (an Oprah Show alumni). My partners and I (all divorced women) are certified in the Sandcastles Program by M. Gary Neuman, M.S., LMHC (Oprah’s “Go-To” expert). I believe that our product will be an asset to your "Suggested Reading". We believe that educating both parents and children with the help of our book will open lines of communication between the two. Children will no longer imagine and wonder ‘why’ their parents are divorcing, and the advice to parents on each page will help them address difficult issues with their kids and how to treat each other appropriately to lessen the negative impact on their children. The publisher of the book, EDCO Publishing, is owned by a former teacher of 25 years. Textbooks and educational material are her main production. The mission statement of our company is “A B.B. Book and Bear in Every School in America!”. We hold charitable book launches/fund-raisers that are geared to placing book and bear packages in schools and guidance counselor’s offices and libraires through contributions from the local community. Please check our website, http://www.bbseries.com. Remember, “The greatest gift you can give to your child is the right to love both parents equally”. Thank You for putting kids first! Heather Drescher, Illlustrator "YOU and ME MAKE THREE" Hello…
Regarding your article about helping kids through divorce, I have a tool that I’m sure you’ll be interested in adding to your arsenal for children and their parents to use to help them through the divorce process! I’ve recently illustrated the award-winning children’s book “You and Me Make Three” which is sold in conjunction with B.B. the Bear (manufactured by Build-A-Bear Workshop). On each page is a Parent Tip from the court mandated SMILE Program co-authored by Richard S. Victor (an Oprah Show alumni). My partners and I (all divorced women) are certified in the Sandcastles Program by M. Gary Neuman, M.S., LMHC (Oprah’s “Go-To” expert). I believe that our product will be an asset to your “Suggested Reading”.

We believe that educating both parents and children with the help of our book will open lines of communication between the two. Children will no longer imagine and wonder ‘why’ their parents are divorcing, and the advice to parents on each page will help them address difficult issues with their kids and how to treat each other appropriately to lessen the negative impact on their children.

The publisher of the book, EDCO Publishing, is owned by a former teacher of 25 years. Textbooks and educational material are her main production. The mission statement of our company is “A B.B. Book and Bear in Every School in America!”.

We hold charitable book launches/fund-raisers that are geared to placing book and bear packages in schools and guidance counselor’s offices and libraires through contributions from the local community. Please check our website, http://www.bbseries.com.

Remember, “The greatest gift you can give to your child is the right to love both parents equally”.

Thank You for putting kids first!

Heather Drescher, Illlustrator
“YOU and ME MAKE THREE”

]]> By: Where Families Connect » Blog Archive » Helping Your Children Get Through Your Divorce http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-98625 Where Families Connect » Blog Archive » Helping Your Children Get Through Your Divorce Mon, 09 Jun 2008 14:31:07 +0000 http://www.cleverparents.com/2008/05/29/the-connected-parent-helping-children-with-separation-and-divorce/#comment-98625 [...] Her article, found on The Connected Parent, explains the three different sources of hurt to children, how to shield children from unnecessary hurt and how children can offload their feelings during their parent’s separation. [...] [...] Her article, found on The Connected Parent, explains the three different sources of hurt to children, how to shield children from unnecessary hurt and how children can offload their feelings during their parent’s separation. [...]

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